1. Understand that family lawyers charge based on their time. This includes time reading emails, talking to you and anything else related to your case. Sending daily emails or calling constantly to talk about your case is a surefire way to escalate your bill. Instead, keep a journal of your thoughts and schedule one block of time to go over all your issues with your attorney and be sure to engage a private therapist or good friend if most of your conversation is related to emotional struggles instead of legal issues.
2. Weigh the cost of what you hope to gain against what you will have to spend to get that amount. Consider that in support matters, oftentimes, it may not make sense to hire a lawyer to fight over $ 100 difference between what you hope to get and what you spouse would agree to pay. You need to balance the cost of legal fees against the amount of money you hope to gain in order to assess whether it is worth the litigation in the financial areas. This applies to support as well as the divorce issues.
3. Gather your own financial records and get organized. You can save money if you are organized and gather your own records that are needed for your divorce. Make sure you have current statements and statements from separation on all your accounts, including retirement accounts, contributions during separation, mortgage statements, credit card statements, etc. and present them to your lawyer in an orderly fashion and you will not only save the money having to have your lawyer gather this for you, but you will be in a better position to possibly settle your case out of court.
4. Consider Mediation. Even if you have an attorney, you are still able to mediate your conflicts if both parties agree. Even if you are unable to come to a global settlement, you can usually narrow down your issues in dispute which will in the long run save both time and money.
5. Understand that your emotional pain has no correlation to what you will receive. Unlike a personal injury claim where you are compensated for pain and suffering, the divorce laws are not structured to compensate you for you pain or hurt. Understanding the factors involved in dividing your assets are based on economic factors rather than emotional factors may help you set realistic expectations and help keep the costs down.
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