Are you getting divorced and represented by counsel? Under the PA Rules of Professional Responsibility, an attorney is not permitted to communicate directly with a party whom they are aware is represented. This applies to that other party as well. These rules are there to protect not only the attorney but also the party. While sometimes you may think it is cheaper and easier to communicate directly with your ex's attorney, it is a mistake. You may say or do something that could jeopardize your case. If you have hired an attorney, it is best to let them do their job and filter everything through your attorney. Your attorney will be able to determine what is relevant and should be conveyed to the other side and what may just simply end at their office. If you are frustrated with your legal fees and working with a middleman, explain this to your attorney and they may be able to offer suggestions on ways to either minimize your expenses or getting the information faster to the other side. Whatever you do, do not pick up the pen, computer or phone and contact the other attorney.