Several updates are being made to the rules as it relates to family law matters. Rule 1915.11, which addresses the appointment of an attorney for a child for a custody matter, now permits the court to apportion the costs for an attorney appointed for a child as the court deems appropriate.

Rule 1915.15 will be revised to ensure parties’ names and addresses are included in a petition to modify a custody order. Finally, Rule 1920.33 will feature changes to the format and requirements for inventories and pretrial statements for equitable distribution matters.

Other proposals for change include an update to the support guidelines and self-support reserve which has not been revised since 2013. The current self-support reserve is $931 reflecting the 2012 poverty level for one person. There is a proposal to Rule 1915.3-2, concerning criminal record or abuse history, to include a space to indicate any involvement with a child protective services agency or active juvenile cases. Lastly, the criminal record history would add columns for contempt of an Order under the Protection from Abuse Act, adjudication of dependency or delinquency and history of sexual violence or intimidation under the Protection of Victims of Sexual Violence and Intimidation Act.

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When we work with you on your divorce, your divorce settlement agreement will contain all the important issues facing you and your spouse including who has what type of custody. If your relationship breaks down and one party refuses to recognize the other parent’s custody rights, the aggrieved parent can try to have the agreement enforced in court.

A properly executed, final divorce agreement is binding on the parties. It’s normally incorporated into the final divorce decree so that it will be as enforceable as any other court order. After your divorce the family courts retain the ability to enforce that judgment as long as necessary.

When you have problems it is important to know that there is a formal procedure to follow to have a custody arrangement enforced immediately. Yes, you can call the police, but do you really want your children to see that circus? To most effectively enforce the agreement we need to get in front of a judge if your spouse is being uncooperative.

An enforcement hearing is normally a much more simple legal proceeding compared to the entire divorce case with all the many issues it involves. At issue will be whether the agreement is valid and enforceable and if so whether it was violated or not. If so, the court needs create an order to enforce the agreement.

A motion to enforce the agreement would be filed with the family court. It explains the situation and discusses what terms of the agreement or prior court order was not complied with. After it’s filed the court will set a hearing date for the motion. If there are disputed issues of material fact a hearing will be scheduled. At the hearing both sides can present evidence to support their side of the story. The judge considers the evidence and legal arguments and issues a decision.

If the former spouses have a difficult relationship child custody issues and all the emotions that come with them can turn a bad situation much worse. Like all other divorce issues it’s best to try to negotiate a resolution to disagreements over custody but ultimately an aggrieved parent being denied his or her custody rights can try to bring the issue to a close with a court order.

If you have questions about child custody or feel your rights to the custody of your child have been violated, contact our office so we can talk about your situation, how the law may apply and what can be done to protect your interests and those of your child.

To move forward with a no-fault divorce in Pennsylvania, the parties need only allege an “irretrievable breakdown of the marriage” and either consent to the divorce after a 90-day period or establish 2-year separation. A no-fault divorce can also be obtained if one of the spouses is institutionalized for a period of 18 months provided they will likely still be institutionalized 18 months following the commencement of the divorce. No-fault divorce became available in Pennsylvania in 1980 when the Divorce Code was revised. Originally, a separation period of three years was required but that has since been reduced to the two year separation period currently required. Recently, there was a legislative push to further reduce the separation period to only one year.

Last November the House voted for the passage of Bill 380 which proposes amending Section 3301(d) of the Divorce Code to allow divorce on the basis of separation for a one year period as opposed to the current law which requires a two year separation period. At this point, Pennsylvania has one of the longer waiting periods for divorce on the basis of separation. New York, Ohio, and Maryland require only one year of separation. New Jersey and Delaware only require six (6) months of separation. The Pennsylvania Bar Association (PBA) played a significant role in pushing for the passage of the bill. According to the PBA, there has actually been a decrease in divorce since many neighboring states have allowed divorce after only a minimum period of separation. Additionally, a shorter separation period will allow the parties to move on with their lives quicker with less emotional and financial strain as well as promote the best interests of minor children in decreasing the period of uncertainty. Unfortunately, the bill died in the Senate this summer such that a two-year separation period stands for Pennsylvania.

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Parties other than parents and grandparents may be able to file for custody. Section 5324 of the Pennsylvania Domestic Relations laws discusses standing for any form of custody. A person who stands in loco parentis may be able to obtain custody. In loco parentis status has been interpreted to mean an assumption of parental status as well as an actual discharge of parental duties giving rise to a relationship which is the same as between parent and child. You must be able to establish more than just a frequent care-taker role. New Jersey allows other parties to file for custody if they have become a “psychological” or de facto parent. This person must have established a relationship with the child with consent of one of the parents, be living with the child, have taken on all responsibility for the child, and have developed a meaningful relationship.

If a party has established they are a “parent” under the applicable statute, any custody matter then proceeds as usual with an analysis of the best interests of the child. If a party has not met the requirements to be designated as a “parent,” they may still be able to request custody in NJ. The party must prove there is gross misconduct, neglect or exceptional circumstances affecting the welfare of the child. If that is proven, the then court shall consider if awarding custody to the third party would promote the best interests of the child. The initial inquiry is a tough to prove. This is due to a presumption that the parents should have custody and the state’s position in protecting the constitutional rights of parents as it relates to autonomy over their own children.

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Certain counties in New Jersey still require an appearance in court to finalize the divorce even if the divorce is uncontested or issues ancillary to the divorce have already been resolved by agreement. The parties should be prepared to testify as to the their residence in the State of New Jersey, date of marriage and grounds for divorce. For example, the facts establishing the divorce action be it irreconcilable differences, separation, etc. The parties should also state if there are any children between the parties and if so, their names and date of birth.

If there is an agreement that has been reached regarding ancillary issues, the agreement should also be introduced during the hearing. Each party should acknowledge their signature on the agreement, and their understanding of all the terms. Key terms should be reiterated including custody provisions, child support, and alimony, if applicable. The parties should indicate they are waiving their right to trial in favor of having the divorce granted on the basis of their agreement. Finally, if Wife intends to retake her maiden name, that should be requested at the hearing.

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After vacationing for some time as a family, it can be hard to adjust to your first trip as a solo parent. Even if you are happy to be free from your spouse, doing everything yourself and not having another adult around can be hard. Your children may be asking why mommy or daddy did not join you all on the trip and the guilt of your failed marriage may be weighing on you for their sake.

Yes, this can all happen on your first vacation as a single parent. As we process your divorce many adjustments to your new life will need to be made. When bringing the children on vacation for the first time you can employ these strategies to help you through:

Travel with Friends – having other adults around can really help you through your first trip. You will have adult companionship and also have another set of hands to help with your children. If you want to take some alone time you also have an adult who can step in and watch your kids for a few hours. Finding the right adults to travel with now can be a bit difficult – it may be awkward to travel with family and friends who you have traveled with before when you were a couple, so finding the right people to help you through this time may be tricky. You could ask a friend who is divorced with children to come along with you as a group .

Make it all about your kids: When you have younger children most vacations are all about them – they need and want your attention anyway to explore and play. Focusing on your children having fun is a great diversion. Planning an adventure around their interests or even just making sure each day has activities focused around them can pass the time and bring you back to the most important aspect of your life – your kids.

Take a few minutes for yourself: If you have a bit of extra budget and some babysitting support, take a trip to the hotel spa. Other options include a long walk on the beach or reading a book undisturbed poolside. Whatever you like to do take a few minutes for yourself – after all, this is your vacation as well!

Most importantly, remember it is all part of the adjustment. The first trip may be lonely or an amazing experience for you. You may love the new pack formed with just you and your children or you may miss your spouse terribly. However the trip evolves for you remember it is all a time of transition and part of stepping into your new life as a single parent.