With the end of school just two months away, it is important to start planning summer for your children. The absence of school means young children will need to be cared for in some way and teens will be arranging summer jobs. . In today's modern society we keep our children very busy and if you live here in Bucks and Montgomery PA there are many activities and camps. Your children may require the additional care of a babysitter or rides to get them to and from different places. I know there is a lot to think about.
Most importantly you will need to coordinate these plans with your ex-spouse. Sometimes when that relationship is strained this can be hard but it is the essential to providing stability to your children (and sanity for yourself) that you work with the other parent. Here are the important points of summer plans for divorced parents and coordinating with your ex.
- First, revisit your divorce agreement. Even if you have been divorced for a few years it is always a good idea to look at the parameters you set up for summer plans. You can make in your calendar when the children will be with you for long weekends and how many weeks of vacation you can take with the kids.
- Think about the days when are going to need coverage for your children. While you have your assigned parenting days it may be necessary to switch days around based on your work schedule and the children's activities. For instance, if they are in camp until only noon and you will be at work where will they be going and how how will they get around?
- Next block out time for your vacation. Is it going to be a conflict because you want to go away when your ex is scheduled to have the children?
- Your original divorce agreement should have outlined how expenses going to be handled. This can include activities the kids have been in for quite some time but also new activities like a first time at sleep away camp. If your original plans do not talk about this then make note of costs and what you can reasonably afford.
Now that you have your plan you can talk with your ex . This can be an easy or hard discussion depending on your relationship. You can start with an email that clearly lists dates and what you need or schedule a call to go over the details.
Post-divorce parenting relationships can be difficult. After all, you are divorced and it may be awkward to deal with your ex-spouse. If you keep your children in mind and at the front of the conversation and realize that the planning will reduce your stress later on, it will make this process easier.